Why do i attract broken men

Do you feel like you swipe and swipe and swipe, and date and date and date, and you just can&#;t come across the right person? Does dating make you undergo frustrated, disappointed, and even hopeless? Do you become your hopes up with a guy but serious down in your heart you know it&#;s not right, and then it ends and you&#;re not really surprised, and secretly you are relieved because you know there are red flags?

No, this is not an infomercial! I&#;m asking these questions because these are the &#;symptoms&#; of attracting damaged men.

I have no training in psychology, and I&#;m not a dating coach. But for the purpose of this article, please accept my advice as a friend and someone with years of dating experience.

Here are my thoughts on attracting damaged men. What does that mean and why do people do it?

Does a &#;damaged man&#; mean: he&#;s older, divorced and possibly suffered a unpleasant breakup? Does it express he&#;s mentally or physically abusive? Has an addiction? Is commitment-phobic? Is depressed? Has anger management issues?

Damaged could mean anything, and damaged people are not bad people, they&#;ve just been through something.

Maybe because they are “damaged,&#; the

I received an email on Divorced Girl smiling from a reader stating that she "only attracts damaged men."

I had to wonder, 'What does 'damaged' mean? I have to suppose that to my reader, "damaged" means divorced or someone who has most likely suffered a worst breakup, only because why else would she be reaching out to DIVORCED Girl Smiling?

What would make her relate to these men as damaged? I'm thinking it's most likely because the exhibit behavior that makes it difficult to sustain a healthy romantic association. Possibilities that come to mind include substance violence, cheating, emotional abuse, depression, bitterness, and fear of commitment. Kind of makes sense, right?

So, I started to think, why would she (or any woman) attract damaged men? By the way, this all applies to women, as well. In other words, women can be damaged, too.

Here are six potential reasons why you might be attracting damaged men (or women):

1. Low self-esteem. In my notion, people with low self-esteem, who don't think they can attract someone finer than a person showing these bad behaviors watch over to go after damaged men (or women.)

2. You don't want to be alone. Some people ca

 

It doesn&#;t seem logical that so many women for damaged men.

I mean we are smart, we are wise, we are self-confident, we should know enhanced. Right?

However, for a variety of reasons, when it comes to certain men, all of those strengths can melt away and we are left at the mercy of men who can suck us dry.

Knowing why we look after to fall for damaged men is the key to understanding why we do it so that we can stop doing it! NOW.

#1 &#; Father issues.

Did you grasp that women who acquire a healthy relationship with their fathers tend to grow into healthier, happier and stronger women?  Unfortunately, for many of us, those healthy relationships just weren&#;t established over the course of our lives.

If you are one of the lucky ones, I am guessing that you might not be reading this article. If you are one of the rest, like me, then you know what I mean.

For me, my father was absent. He was one of those dads who worked a lot and left the youngster care to my mother. He was around but not present. And when he was present, he was very sarcastic. Whenever I told him a goal or accomplishment, he put me down saying I wouldn&#;t be competent to do it.

My parents divorced when

I&#;ve had about three grave relationships throughout my being. As they ended I used to joke that I only attracted men with parental issues until my last relationship ended and I realized it was beginning to be a serious problem. It got to the gesture where I found myself questioning why this was. Was I attracted to damaged men? What was it about me that attracted those types to me? I even resorted to google trying to find answers. &#;Why perform I attract damaged guys?&#; &#;Why I attract men with abandonment issues?&#; &#;Why I attract men with mommy issues&#; &#;Why toxic men are attracted to me&#; and the list goes on. I couldn&#;t find too many answers until I realized I had to figure out some things about myself first and foremost.

When conference someone new and starting the process to establishing a relationship it&#;s never said &#;hey, my bond with my parents might effect our relationship&#; or &#;hey, my past has really fucked me up so expect to notice that baggage appear&#; these are things that you eventually see as the relationship progresses and you begin to dissect the nature of their past and relationships with their family.

With my first earnest re

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