Gay bandana
When two men are negotiating a sexual encounter or even compatibility to hang out, the phrase “What are you into?” will inevitably come from one or both.. Quite often in “Grindr” chat, this is shortened to be simply “into?” — just love ships used cyphers (flags) to communicate, we queer men have our retain way to communicate sexual preferences and proclivities. It’s called the Hanky Code.
Originating in the early 1970’s in either New York or San Francisco (let’s not even try to settle that debate), the hanky code is a system of signaling sexual preferences, fetishes, and roles by choosing to wear a specifically colored bandana on a particular side of the body. With just a glance at your rear end, (the bandana being tucked in your back pocket) anyone who is in-the-know will know what you’re “into!”
So how do you realize which color to wear, and where to wear it? The first critical variable is the side of the body on which you choose to wear your colors, because this signals your preferred role:
- Left side of the body = Top/Dominant Role
- Right side of the body = Bottom/Submissive Role
As a way to remember which is which, consider that we read left to right, so left comes first. Simila
Flagging for some hanky panky – deciphering the gay handkerchief code
By Chris Williams, updated 4 months ago in Lifestyle / LGBT people and culture
Have you ever noticed a guy with a coloured bandana or handkerchief sticking out of his help pocket? Bless you for not knowing how wearing one became the symbol of a secret sex language. Here’s how to decipher what it all means.
The hanky code has been a part of underground gay culture for over 40 years, and if you don’t realize what it’s all about, we’ll get you up to speed in no time.
Perhaps more prevalent in the leather community, you might still find a few practitioners of this means of secret message. But what’s the hanky code?
What is the hanky code?
It’s pretty straightforward. Wearing a coloured handkerchief or a bandana in a particular location on your body can be a way to indicate to somebody else what thoughtful of sex you delight in. Colours or patterns illustrate a different sexual task, while the positioning indicates your preference of role.
The Hanky Code | Emen8(#NSFW)
The bandana is often on display sticking out of a help pocket, or occasionally tied around the upper arm.
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