I Used to Shy Away From My Bisexuality. Then I Found Podcasting and Porn.
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Like many young women who later identify as queer, I was the girl at the party often found kissing other girls. And in case you’re picturing a sweaty mob of frat boys cheering us on, this wasn’t that. These were smaller groups of friends drinking in the woods together, or intimate gatherings of horny theater kids. Sure, I liked the exhibitionism of it—and that was definitely part of the motivation—but I wasn’t just doing it for attention. Even back then, I knew I liked girls—I just didn’t contain the vocabulary for it. I wasn’t an isolated, repressed, small-town queer kid, though. I went to a diverse arts magnet school in Denver, I had plenty of male lover friends, and I received an unusually comprehensive sex education through a program called About Your Sexuality at my highly steady Unitarian Universalist church. I was about as sex-positive as a young person could be.
During those years, I enjoyed the comfort of conformity. I had a rebellious streak, but it was a carefully calculat
Sexual health for female homosexual and bisexual women
Women who have sex with other women can hand over on or get STIs. Know how to guard yourself.
Women can catch STIs such as chlamydia when exchanging bodily fluids.
Herpes and genital warts can be passed on through skin-to-skin contact. This includes oral sex or using the same hand when touching yourself and then your partner.
Tips for safer sex between women
If you're using sex toys, use a new condom for each partner or between penetration of different body openings. Sex toys should be washed with soap and water between sessions.
Avoid oral sex if either of you has any cuts or sores in the mouth or on the lips, or use a dental dam. A dental dam is a latex or polyurethane (very slender, soft plastic) square, of about 15cm by 15cm, which you can employ to cover the anus or female genitals during oral sex. It acts as a barrier to help prevent sexually transmitted infections passing from one person to another.
Some infections can be transmitted by hands, fingers and mutual vulval rubbing. Wash your hands before and after sex.
Wear latex gloves and use plenty of water-based lubricant for vaginal and anal fisting.
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The lesbians who feel pressured to have sex and relationships with trans women
Caroline Lowbridge
BBC News
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Is a lesbian transphobic if she does not want to have sex with gender non-conforming women? Some lesbians declare they are increasingly creature pressured and coerced into accepting trans women as partners - then shunned and even threatened for speaking out. Several acquire spoken to the BBC, along with trans women who are concerned about the issue too.
Warning: Story contains strong language
"I've had someone saying they would rather kill me than Hitler," says 24-year-old Jennie*.
"They said they would strangle me with a belt if they were in a room with me and Hitler. That was so bizarrely violent, just because I won't hold sex with trans women."
Jennie is a lesbian girl. She says she is only sexually attracted to women who are biologically female and have vaginas. She therefore only has sex and relationships with women who are biologically female.
Jennie doesn't think this should be controversial, but not everyone agrees. She has been described as transphobic, a genital fetishist, a pervert and a "terf"
How Do Lesbians Have Sex? 28 Things to Recognize Before Your First Time
Often, people assume that lesbians can’t get pregnant, or that lesbian sex can’t result in pregnancy. That’s a myth based on the assumption that both women are cisgender.
If one partner is gender diverse and has a penis and the other is cisgender and has a vagina, they can contain penis-in-vagina sex.
In many cases, this means that pregnancy is possible.
If you want to avoid pregnancy, talk to your significant other about birth control.
This may include a combination of hormonal contraception, like the pill, and condoms.
Here are a few ways to reduce your risk of STIs and other infections:
Dental dams.Use these if you’re performing oral sex, either on the vagina or the anus.
External condoms. You can use these for penis-in-vagina sex, penis-in-anus sex, or oral sex on penises.
Internal condoms. You can use these for penis-in-vagina sex or penis-in-anus sex.
Gloves or finger cots.These can protect you during manual-genital stimulation, such as fingering, hand jobs, and clitoral stimulation. They may sense more comfortable when used with lube.
Hand hygiene. When it comes to fingering, clitoral
